鬼？You will have the last laugh...
今天有点卑鄙，但考虑到这个行业中有多少人被雇主幽灵，我会分享我会分享。我在这里告诉你好消息。如果您在行业/行业周围呆了足够长的时间，那么您将对一群幽灵的人进行最后的笑声。这是我的经历清单。请注意，其中一些字面上花了十年的时间。
我的第一个股票研究采访。走了进去。面试了,是伟大的then ghosted. First interviewer was fired about two years later. Got another job at a different firm and was fired after another two years. Talked with me at an industry event years down the road and asked me for job leads. Kind of sad. Half-heartedly helped the dude out. Got to know the second interviewer in my years in the industry. Almost 5 or 6 years later, he offered me a job, I turned it down. Not out of spite, but because I had plenty of better opportunities.
接受了另一个嗯位置。参加了三场独立的采访。第三次采访后被幽灵。同时，我的工作更好。4个月后，公司回来了，要求我第四次面试，候选人失败。我拒绝了。不到两年后，分析师被解雇了，我相信现在已经不在业内了。
Interview with an investment bank. Went really well and got ghosted. Fast forward 5 years again. Same MD recently came to pitch a buy side mandate to our company. Let's just say that he didn't get it.
在另一家投资银行鬼影。公司一言不发后，公司从字面上回来了六个月，并让我再次面试。我拒绝了。银行继续推销我们的公司。快进了几年，小组陷入了困境。
这篇文章的重点是WSOusers feel better about some of theBS在招聘行为中。另一点是提醒像我这样的老年人总是以尊重的方式对待大三学生。如果您正在采访年轻，聪明和雄心勃勃的孩子，即使您不给他们职位，也要赔率。之后，他们将在其他时刻在交易的另一端工作，否则他们会加入PE您想在不久的将来试图投球的公司。此外，在这项业务中，您可能会在今天和明天的排水沟中站起来。即使是当今行业中可能没有人的人，也要善待桥梁尽可能少的桥梁。对我来说似乎是常识，但显然，考虑到许多人的经验，需要说WSO用户。
TLDR:不要不尊重人的强度rview process, the world is a small place.
EDIT: Given the comments below, I think some people are misunderstanding my post. I mean "last laugh" as a figure of speech. I don't mean that I'm literally waiting years and years holding onto grudges and waiting for someone's downfall. I could care less - I'm simply observing the outcome years down the road and how paths can cross again between a job candidate and an interviewer. In addition, you can be an interviewer one day in this business and easily find yourself a job candidate the next day. So, approach other candidates with some basic decency. As I noted in the post, I continue to take meetings with some of these MDs, one offered me a job years down the road once we got to know each other better, and I tried to help another one get a job. A person with a grudge does none of those things. I'm simply saying that if you ghost someone today, you're not starting on a good foot should you ever run into that person in the future and it's foolish to do in an industry which is a small world. For some strange (perhaps personal reason), a lot of commenters below seem to be angry at this fairly basic concept.
Comments (22）
我了解您在说什么，并认为您的整体意图很好，但是我认为您缺少其中的一些标记。您的＃3特别令人担忧（如果您让您对鬼影影响业务决策的情绪 - 这似乎是您的意思）。
我会更简单：无需第一次或最后一个笑，专注于您的成功，另一个废话并不重要。基本上，要理性。
有很多原因，您会被鬼魂幽灵，有时HR忘记跟进，有时事情会在此过程中迷失，有时人们只是一个**；尽管我坚信对每个候选人做出回应，但有时会发生错误。总的来说，我同意它指向一家混乱的公司（或更糟），但您确实不需要亲自接受这些事情（类似于拒绝）。是的，有共同的礼貌是理想的，但并非总是如此。我认为更多地专注于自己取得成功，而不必担心那些人（尤其是那些糟糕的人）是一种更简单的生活方式。
我一生中被拒绝了很多次，我失去了数量。其中许多是完全保证的，很多时候我从未听到过回来，哦，生活还在继续。
不，那不是我的意思。如果有人给我带来了很多东西，无论如何我都会看一下，但是如果您是与其他15个银行相同的交易，那么我可以选择有点琐碎，然后与其他14个交易一起去银行。在桌子的这一侧，这通常是看起来像。
Also, totally agree on your second part of your comments. Just move on with your life and be successful. That said, if you treat people in the industry with disrespect, don't be surprised if it comes back to you. That's all I'm saying. Not trying to hold a vendetta against someone. Note I mentioned helping one of the interviewers earlier.
ITT：OP多年来持怨恨
我不抱怨，但这是常识。银行是一项关系业务。如果您对某人的治疗不好，如果您有一天需要回到他们身边，请不要期望得到很好的对待。人类互动101。
编辑：如果您摆脱了OP所持怨恨而不是实际的信息，“因为这是一个小世界，请尊重和尊重大三”，那么您可能是问题的一部分。只要尊重那些花时间去面试的人们。那很难吗？
老实说，我同意您的帖子。操他们。
哟，阅读帖子后，我不能成为唯一的想法：没错，他妈的那些混蛋，不是吗？
当您被拧紧时，您需要具有较厚的皮肤，并且不要看每种情况。如果某人确实是一个d*ck，请很好地将它们写下来，但是如果您认为某人对待您的对待不佳，则“不要燃烧桥”规则不会消失，您可能会破坏与他们或他们的网络的联系。似乎对看起来像小事（被“鬼魂”）的不良举动。
等待在这里等待。...通过更多的逻辑结论考虑一下。我在很大程度上同意“不要烧桥”，但是谁在这里燃烧桥？如果候选人试图跟进面试官两次或三次，而没有得到任何回应，那么面试官正在燃烧桥梁。这是我的重点。即使是一个年轻的申请人，也永远不会燃烧桥梁。这是一条在燃烧的桥上的双向街道。保持那座桥的打开状态。可以像两分钟的电子邮件一样简单，感谢他们的时间，并让他们知道他们搬到了另一个候选人身上。
在第一段中，闻到了失败者的抱怨。如果这不是狂热者，去乱搞一些草
消息在“不要对人的不可拒绝的人”帖子中很简单，因为这是一个小世界”。如果您有问题，我猜您是问题的一部分。
如果公司或人欺骗了您，您可能不想与他们合作。它说了很多关于他们做生意的方式。当然，我们可以整天坐在这里，给他们带来怀疑的好处，人们很忙，等等……但是事实是，某些标准有使业务成功的一定标准。
我并不是说您需要燃烧桥梁，但不要将其作为某种可接受的行为写出。成功的企业不这样做。
And remember you haven't even gotten a job yet. Imagine what things are like behind the scenes. Do they do that with clients? You don't even work with them yet and they are willing to passively give you the middle finger after you have spent time preparing to interview with them. Not cool. Definitely move on and seek a sense of justice by being a more successful professional then they will ever be.
Seems you take being ghosted personally, and in reality it almost never is. I would understand if this post was made by a student applying for a summer job and hasn't been through many interview processes, but holding grudges years into your career clearly shows lack of emotional intelligence / maturity. The idea of "getting the last laugh" because someone didn't reply to your follow-up is pretty childish.
所有面试都意味着要代表的是两个政党在专业环境中汇聚在一起，以查看是否合适 - 如果您提供的内容匹配了组织正在寻找的东西（反之亦然），那么您就被录用了。如果没有，任何一方都可以选择走开 - 我想强调这一点，因为这从来不是单方面的决定。我发现关于您的帖子的最琐碎的是，您将候选人（或在被“被“鬼魂”）联系到代理商而不是组织。让我们面对现实吧 - 潜在的工作机会不会出于多种原因（更好的候选人，糟糕的时机，招聘冻结，众多访问者中的一个不喜欢您的领带等），其中许多是您的（更重要的是，对方的控制。
I get there's "professional etiquette", but the world doesn't operate under a strict book of rules and there's no point of losing sleep over it. All you get from getting back at someone is a mental win that lasts 5 seconds - if that's what makes you happy, you do you and no one can change that. I operate with the perspective that life moves on, and if this opportunity doesn't pan out move onto the next one. Have to say I've been pretty happy.
我要问的只是一些基本的情感成熟度，您可以通过2分钟的电子邮件回复给申请人，让他们知道他们没有得到职位。如果您不认为这是正常的人类的事情，那么我就不需要听到您关于情感成熟的任何讲道。
It's not a fun thing to do writing those kinds of emails but it IS almost the definiton of emotional maturity. Don't treat people like disposal objects. And don't throww a hissy fit when you realize that some of those people may not think highly off you when you come pitching a deal to them 5 years down the road. That's a normal human reaction.
There is no person out there who treats others like shit and is emotionally mature buddy. Stop trying to normalize bad behavior.
另外，请注意，您会写这篇文章，就好像我每天晚上失去睡眠一样。Nope很久以前就继续前进。我的帖子只是观察到多年的时间。
我试图将其保留为民事，但我必须说实话 - 您听起来像是一个巨大的p*ssy
Your post makes a lot of assumptions to the poster and then end by self congratulating your point of view with some sort of sense of self righteousness.
反馈是一回事。屈尊是另一回事。如果您要在高水平的“情绪智力”上拍拍自己的背部，请找到一种更好的沟通方法。
I wholeheartedly agree with this post (But please note that the following comments are mine alone and not trying to represent ops views). For those of you who want to lick everyone's ass no matter what in this business, you are part of the problem and while it may help you in some instances, it likely won't help in any significant way. When someone acts like I dick I take notice and others do too, and we def compare notes. It it's funny to watch the smug eat shit, it is what it is.
财务上有一个极低的标准，让某人被视为“好人”或“好朋友”，这是可悲的。达到了这个“他的好人”胡说八道的地步，使总的流浪汉继续在街上被录用。我宁愿守一个笨蛋说，这个家伙是一件狗屎，也是一个闯入者。
了解谁在您的角落，谁不在您身后的人，始终为他们而战，其余的，对他们诚实。
我认为没有人不同意这一点，但是将某人（再次通过人力资源和大型公司可能在大型公司中）幽灵并不是理由变得如此弯曲的理由。是的，请注意坏人，是的，您不想给这些人免费通过。但是，不，不要因为幽灵而脱颖而出，您需要能够更好地处理。理想情况下，这不会发生，但这是一件小事（这来自一个向后弯腰与所有候选人作为公司合作伙伴交谈的人）。
我的观点并没有完全与幽灵联系在一起，我期望您的评论 - 在某种程度上，我同意，人力资源对与候选人进行仔细沟通的球有一些人，所以我明白了，但这仍然很差。
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